Many parents are aware of the need for more gentle, conscious, peaceful parenting.
But there can be confusion about about what peaceful parenting actually looks like in day to day practice.
We want to raise our children without spanking, punishing, shaming and other mistreatment. But we also want to know what to do instead of those things.
I’m hoping this can help out, because there are actually a lot of peaceful alternatives.
Whenever you’re frustrated and out of ideas, or if you’re looking for a new technique to try, you can refer to this list of peaceful parenting techniques that actually work:
30 Peaceful Parenting Techniques that work:
- Empathizing
- Validating
- Connecting
- Supporting
- Hugging
- Trusting
- Understanding
- Appreciating
- Admiring
- Gently Guiding
- Being Sensitive
- Listening
- Observing without Judgment
- Showing Interest
- Accepting
- Embracing
- Self Care
- Acknowledging Feelings
- Staying Calm
- Having Compassion
- Nurturing
- Forgiving
- Encouraging
- Cooperating
- Unconditionally Loving
- Respecting
- Honoring
- Celebrating
- Dignifying
- Treating Like An Equal As A Fellow Human Being
(BONUS – Click here to download a printable version of this list)
All of the above techniques work. Many times we use more than one at the same time. And if the techniques seem like they aren’t working, then the question to ask is, what do we mean by “working” in the first place?
A Shift In Attitude
Ultimately, the peaceful parenting approach is more about an attitude shift in the way we are communicating with our children.
Instead of talking down to children, threatening a punishment if they don’t comply with our demands, shaming, spanking, scolding or worse, the peaceful parenting attitude is about working with children, connecting more often, listening to their concerns and interests, empathizing, validating, and treating them with respect (before demanding they be the ones to respect us first).
- If you are a beginner, or new to Peaceful Parenting, you might like my post Ten Things For Beginners To Know About Peaceful Parenting
- For a deeper dive discussion about peaceful parenting, see my post The Deeper Goals of Peaceful Parenting
Feel free to add more techniques and tips in the comments.
Eric
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