When a child is raised with regular, ongoing evaluations of what’s wrong with them, what they have to be ashamed of, how they “always” talk or act or behave in some way that is judged to be negative, how do you think that child is going to grow up to see themselves? Those negative evaluations…
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.” -Joseph Campbell I’ve been chasing after my own healing and well-being for a long time. Until my son was born though, I hadn’t done much actual inner work. As soon as I began to feel the responsibility of fatherhood, I realized that one…
It’s amazing to me how society teaches children to self-blame for the difficulties and struggles the parents go through. The kinds of comments and attitude you see in discussions of raising children are so often something like: “I don’t know how they ever put up with me as a child” “I was such a spoiled…
Many parents are aware of the need for more gentle, conscious, peaceful parenting. But there can be confusion about about what peaceful parenting actually looks like in day to day practice. We want to raise our children without spanking, punishing, shaming and other mistreatment. But we also want to know what to do instead of…
I always knew I would never spank, never hit, never slap or smack or physically strike my son in any way. I had an inner knowing that it wasn’t right, from the day he was born. What I didn’t realize at all was that my journey into peaceful parenting would result in my becoming a…
Other than becoming a dad, here is a short list of things that have changed my life for the better. Counting backwards in terms of priority. #7 The decision to change It all started with a decision. A realization that I wasn’t happy, that I didn’t like how things were going in my life, that…